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In writing this book in which the intention of the information applies equally to person’s of any sex, race, religion, we have been faced with the dilemma of sex-specific pronouns. The use of word “he” when referring to an offender in a crime of domestic violence in this Workbook, occurs as a result of the majority statistics that show that DV crimes are perpetrated more often by men against women rather than women against men or same sex violence. This is not to imply that women do not commit DV crimes against women or men, rather, they are the minority.
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From the Executive Director of the Child Rescue Foundation:
I am a stalking survivor.
In choosing to open this workbook, you have made the first crucial decision in leaving an abusive relationship. You have chosen recovery.
You are not responsible for the actions of any other human beings. You are responsible for actions and reactions in your life, every minute of every day, and how you choose to act and react from here on out will determine your success in moving forward in your recovery. Individuals seeking recovery are choosing to see a different way of life, to see the heaven they have yet to experience over the hell they have known. Other people can talk to you about what recovery looks like. They can tell you what living without fear and terror can look like. But until you choose to move through that door, these stories are only dreams of other survivor’s lives. I made a choice to recover.
In working through my own recovery, and helping many others to move through theirs, a common story is told. It was comforting to know that I was not alone. You are not alone. Almost all victims of crime say, “I felt like I was the only one.” Frustration, a sense of hopelessness, anger or fear has kept them immobilized throughout their ordeal. Many times these sad and fearful emotions propel us to try something new in the hopes that life will change for the better.
Recovery is a process, much like stepping on stones across a brook. For some, the steps are small, often forward in nature, but sometimes we take a few steps backward just to test the waters. It becomes a process, a daily mindful ritual, to want to make effective changes in our lives, and in the lives of our children.
What you put into your recovery is what you get out of it. You may go backwards. You may need time to sit on a flat rock and work on your journal, talk to a therapist, join a support group. Often, in recovery mode, assessing your life daily can help you to focus on the steps ahead. This process takes time. Be kind to yourself while you are stepping along. It is easier with a support system. Align yourself with people who love and care for you and support your efforts. The time to move on from those who hold you back has come. Seek your church, synagogue, mosque, friends, and sympathetic coworkers for support. I can hear you say it already, “Yes, but they have already heard this and they are getting tired of me and my problems.” Then it is time to learn a valuable lesson, leave your little red wagon full of woes behind, because they belong in the past, and allow yourself to imagine a bright new future. Imagine and act your best life and you will make it come true. What have you got to loose when beginning to dream again? Dreams often come true with goals, especially when those dreams are connected to goals. Determine what your motivation is and establish goals to reach those dreams.
It takes great strength to want to change. If you understand how much effort it took to get where you are now, and that every small step is a win, then you will also understand how much effort it will take for you keep moving forward.
Former stalking and domestic violence survivors helped assemble the Awareness Workbook for Victims of Domestic Violence and Stalking . Within this book, you will find a working guide in identifying signs and symptoms of domestic violence for adults and children to assist you in your recovery for both your self and your children. To assist in your journey, there are assessment tools, awareness raising tips, recovery tools and reading for moving forward into your new life. These are the tools they learned to help them to recover.
Recovery is a personal choice, a private matter. It is your choice for self-accountability. Just as in the case of boarding an airplane, the stewards will tell you in case of emergency, take the face mask and place it on YOUR face first, then on your child’s. Children watch what we do, not do what we say. So, you must heal yourself first.
Remember you have great strength and courage, and with support and determination, a new life is ready to open up to you.
Joanne Kappel Copyright 2021 by Joanne Kappel and the Child Rescue Foundation, Inc.
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Table of Contents
|About this Workbook|
|Development and Production Team|
|Table of Contents|
|Letter from the Executive Director|
Part One – Domestic Violence
Chapter One – Identifying Domestic Violence – 14
Chapter Two – Identifying Precursors to Violence – 20
Chapter Three – Children and Domestic Violence – 27
Chapter Four – Dating Violence and Abuse – 46
Chapter Five – Safety Plan – 49
Chapter Six – Domestic Violence Review – 58
Part Two – Domestic Violence is NOT OKAY
A Book for Children and Adults dealing with Domestic Violence – 60-85
Coloring Book for Children from Aurora Family Violence Response Team-86-97
Part Three –Stalking – 98
Chapter Seven – Introduction to Stalking – 99
Chapter Eight – Coming to Terms with a Stalking Relationship – 115
Chapter Nine – Getting out of a Stalking Relationship – 120
Chapter Ten – Cyberstalking and the Law – 124
Chapter Eleven – Safety Plan Taking Action-127
Making a Safety Plan
If It’s Not Me, Can I Still Help?
Goals of the Abuser / Predator
|Tri Fold Quick Look||130|
|How to Enhance Police Response||131|
|Your Rights as a Victim||131|
Part Four – Recovery
Sample Court Forms
Part Five – Managing Your Case
Chapter 13:Enforcing the Law -248
Child Support Enforcement of Child Support 249
Strategies to Improve Supervised Visitation Services in Domestic Violence Cases 250
Recognizing Common Batterers Behaviors In Supervised Visitation Settings 253
Strategies to Improve Supervised Visitation in Domestic Violence Cases 255
Chapter 14: Managing Your Case-261
Chapter 15:Domestic Violence in the Workplace 278
Part Six – Reference-273
|The Restraining Order||287|
|More Help Online||293|
|History of CRF||299|
A first step in the process of recovery..form Victim to Victor!!!